Understanding Men

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When He Won’t Make a Commitment…It’s Everything

I’ve heard it more times than I can count: “He’s got everything I’m looking for… he just won’t make a commitment.” The other day I heard that through the sobs of my gorgeous, ambitious, loving… Read more

My Dad

Delicious Life Lessons I Learned from My Father

As always, I am (re)posting the tribute I wrote to my Dad in 2012. He taught me such meaningful lessons about life and love. He was a smart man, though I didn’t know it for… Read more

The Truth About Single Men and Strong Women

Are you a smart, independent, single woman who is dating after 40 and having a hell of a time finding good men to date? Are you starting to think there are just no good men… Read more

7 Love Lessons for Women Dating After 40 From Kamala Harris

Kamala Harris and I have some important Love Lessons for you if you’re a mature single woman looking for love. My proud lefty, progressive, feminist self is over the moon with the woman who will… Read more

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Online Profile Tips for Mature Women- A Guy’s Perspective

I hope you’re online, especially now with COVID 19. Today I’m giving you online profile tips for mature women (like you!) who are looking for a real grownup man. These tips come directly from a… Read more

Does Depending on a Man Scare You?

This week the USA celebrates its Independence Day. That was a day I used to celebrate for myself every day: INDEPENDENCE! Now, after 14 years of being married to a man who values my independence… Read more

He ghosted you

He Ghosted You. Why and WTF Should You Do Now?

You went on a date or two or three. You liked him, and he seemed into you. Then, without warning…no return texts, no calls, he even blocked you on Facebook. That bastard…he ghosted you! Welcome… Read more

Attract Good Men: Show You Need Them

Needy women attract good men.  Low-maintenance women attract jerks…or no men at all. Is this counter to what you’ve always thought? Did you think that the less you expected from a man, the more he’d… Read more

ask a man for what you want

How To Get What You Want From Men (So You Can Both Be Happy)

If you don’t ask…you don’t get. This is one of my Dad’s favorite lines and I think the key to being happy with men. Dad’s premise was that it is your responsibility to state what… Read more

Why Do Married Men Want Me But Single Men Don’t? [Video]

   Do you have men in your life who adore you? You have a great time with them. You laugh together, maybe they want to know about you and your life, they even say… Read more