Since I specialize in helping women over 40 find love, clients often ask about dating a widower. Is it a waste of time? Should I proceed with caution? Is it a losing proposition? And my answer may surprise you: Widowers are some of the best, most eligible, grownup men out there. One of the most […]
I’ve heard it more times than I can count: “He’s got everything I’m looking for… he just won’t make a commitment.” The other day I heard that through the sobs of my gorgeous, ambitious, loving friend. She’s been with her man for over a year. Including this one little word — JUST — is an […]
You’re dating a man and noticing his flaws. How do you know when it’s time to break up with him? Here’s how you make a good decision.
Needy women attract good men. Low-maintenance women attract jerks…or no men at all. Is this counter to what you’ve always thought? Did you think that the less you expected from a man, the more he’d like you? Well, consider this: A Good Man – one who is confident, mature and relationship-minded – desperately wants to […]
If you don’t ask…you don’t get. This is one of my Dad’s favorite lines and I think the key to being happy with men. Dad’s premise was that it is your responsibility to state what you want when it’s important to you, and then give people a chance to give it. If you don’t ask […]
Don’t you hate when he promised you a date but leaves you sitting there wondering if you’re really going out? I mean you are both over 40, so why still play these “who should call” games? So, should you call him? Here’s the answer, sister. It’s Monday and you’re talking on the phone with a […]
Are your expectations of men based on old stories and past hurts? Good chance they are and it’s likely that fear is sabotaging your love life. Give this a read to see if you’re fears are getting in the way of your grownup love story. Here is an email exchange I had with one of […]
Want to be happy with a man? Learn how to ask for what you want in a kind, non-threatening way, is the strongest tool you can use in a relationship. Here’s how.
Posting online profile photos can feel agonizing, especially for women and most especially for women dating after 40. Writing a profile and filling out questionnaires can be a challenge, but the posting pictures part is the hardest part for many. It’s true that you’re putting yourself out there and a lot of men are going […]
Every year I write some version of “Over-40 and Single: How to Survive the Holidays”, like How to Avoid Feeling Like Crap this Year, or Tis the Season for Breakups and Bad Dates. I encourage you to check out those posts. There is super practical advice on how to manage feelings around being single. I […]
