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Does Depending on a Man Scare You?

This week the USA celebrates its Independence Day. That was a day I used to celebrate for myself every day: INDEPENDENCE! Now, after 14 years of being married to a man who values my independence… Read more

How Your Mature Femininity Can Save the World

In the wake of this past Mother’s day, I wrote a very personal message to the women on my mailing list about how to embrace your incredibly powerful mature femininity. (If you’re not yet on… Read more

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DLAGU’s Stand on Black Lives Matter

Today, on Juneteenth, I’m publishing this letter that I recently sent to the members of my Date Like a Grownup community claiming my stand on the Black Lives Matter movement. If you don’t have the… Read more

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Do’s and Don’ts About Online Profile Photos for Women Dating after 40

Posting online profile photos can feel agonizing, especially for women and most especially for women dating after 40. Writing a profile and filling out questionnaires can be a challenge, but the posting pictures part is… Read more

The Key to Finding Love is Believing You Deserve It

Have you ever noticed how, when things go well for us, we women say how “lucky” or “blessed” we are? And men, not so much. Men seem to have an innate sense of entitlement when… Read more

Single During the Holidays? How to Avoid Feeling like Crap

This time of year is spectacular. Or not. Yes, we get to eat more, work less, shop till we drop, and frolic with friends and family. Also, it’s a time of reflection; and as we… Read more

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Dirty John and the Lessons for Mature Women Dating

Dirty John was a podcast and is now a mini-series on Bravo about a middle-aged woman who meets a man online and enters into a whirlwind courtship. It ends horribly, practically destroying her and her entire family.… Read more

How to Get Over Your Ex, Heal Your Broken Heart and Find a Better Man

If you are a woman dating after 40, it’s likely you had at least a few breakups that have left you feeling broken hearted. So…how DO you get over your ex? Maybe you’re going through a… Read more

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Should You Trust Your Instincts About Dating and Love?

“Intuition is truly a feminine quality, but women should not mistake rash conclusions for this gift.” Minna Antrim How much should you pay attention to your instincts about dating and love? The other day I… Read more

Why You’re a Little Scared of Dating (and How to Dump that Fear)

Are you just a little (or a lot) scared of dating? Or maybe of actually entering into a relationship? You’re NOT alone! I’ve been helping women over 40 find passionate, grownup love since I became… Read more