Starting Over Single

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Tweak Your Online Dating Profile This Way and Attract Men You Like

Do you want to know the key to writing an online dating profile to catch the eye of the type of good, grownup men you want to meet? Be. Real. That’s it. When you express… Read more

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Dating Over 50: Is There Still Sex in the City?

“In Is There Still Sex in The City? Bushnell looks at love and life from all angles—marriage and children, divorce and bereavement, as well as the very real pressures on women to maintain their youth… Read more

He ghosted you

He Ghosted You. Why and WTF Should You Do Now?

You went on a date or two or three. You liked him, and he seemed into you. Then, without warning…no return texts, no calls, he even blocked you on Facebook. That bastard…he ghosted you! Welcome… Read more

Dting a Widower

Dating a Widower: 4 Tips to Make It a Success

So often my clients ask about dating a widower. Is it a red flag? Should I proceed with caution? Is it a losing proposition? And my answer may surprise you: widowers are some of they… Read more

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Tired of Being Single? 3 Simple Steps to Get You Unstuck.

By the time I was 47 and never married or even in a long-term relationship I was the epitome of tired of being single. Now, even though I’ve been happily married since 2006, I still… Read more

Single During the Holidays? How to Avoid Feeling like Crap

This time of year is spectacular. Or not. Yes, we get to eat more, work less, shop till we drop, and frolic with friends and family. Also, it’s a time of reflection; and as we… Read more

Over 40 and Single? Happy Sassy Holidays!

Every year I write some version of “Over-40 and Single: How to Survive the Holidays”, like How to Not Feel Like Crap this Year, or How to Avoid the Blues this December… I encourage you… Read more

Should You Commit to a Relationship? Ask These Questions First.

Deborah contacted me and asked a question I get often: should I commit to a relationship with the guy I’ve been dating? She and John have been dating for 4 months and she was wondering… Read more

5 Reasons Women Should Talk About Kavanaugh on a Date

The Kavanaugh hearings are freaking painful. Personally, I’ve tried to go on some kind of news blackout but it’s unavoidable. It’s everywhere in the news. (Real and fake news *choke*.) Everyone is talking about it.… Read more

How to Avoid Being Scammed or Catfished Online

This is the number one fear single women over 40 have about using online dating. They worry about being scammed or catfished. ‘Catfishing’ is a term for the process of luring people into false relationships, or… Read more