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You are not too old.
It is not too late.

Your grownup love story is waiting…

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Hi, I’m Bobbi Palmer

Founder of Date Like a Grownup

This is me after becoming a First-Time Bride in 2006. I was 47 years old.

Being a woman dating after 40 can suck. I’ve lived it all. Wondering why everyone else gets to be loved but you. The years without being touched by a man. The men who lie, manipulate and disappear. The narcissists and the too-nice guys you wish you could like. Being obsessed, hating men, hating yourself, giving up. Trying to believe that you don’t need a man to be happy but, in your heart, knowing that’s a lie.

After 25+ years of that bullshit, I got honest with myself. I was the common denominator in my decades of sad stories. It took me a few years of sometimes difficult inner-work, but I finally learned how to love myself and men. I also learned how to Be Loved. (Yes, we have to learn that too.)

I’m so happy you’re here. When you accept my help, you will learn what I did, but in a MUCH simpler and faster way! I’ve helped thousands of women around the world write their grownup love story. Now it’s your turn. Let’s get this party started! Read more…

Work with me and

become a success story

"Learning to date like a grownup really does lead to love. He is just wonderful and he makes me feel so special. We are both excited and curious about the future, which we know will be together. If I had not worked with you I know for sure that I would not have this wonderful relationship."

—Tracey
"Through your guidance, I met my husband online. Showing me the process of clearly defining who I was and what I was looking for. With that clarity, I was able to push away the cobwebs and know with more certainty what was important to me."

—T. L.
"I am very excited to say that I took your advice and YES met the man of my dreams! Your coaching was exactly what I needed to gain the confidence that I was lacking to be able to be single and date after 40!"

—Kathy M.
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"Bobbi taught me about letting men be men and loving the woman I am. You really have to do the inner work before you can be successful with men. The advice and principles that Bobbi teaches really really work! I'm getting married to a spectacular man!"

—Trudi
"Through Bobbi’s coaching, I’ve been able to speak up for what I need and want which has really helped me in the dating world. I got clear on my Must Have’s - which single handedly rescued this relationship. I realized he had them all! I'm so in love with a really good man!"

—Vicki R., 48
"If you are truly committed to do your part in your search for true love, rest assured that Bobbi will compassionately, wholeheartedly and passionately be your best partner to help you find it."

—Veronica A, 45
"He has a key to my house and to my heart. I can’t imagine being anywhere else. He is amazing, and I’m better than I have ever been. Life is good. Just like a Disney Movie."

—Alice B.
"Working with Bobbi changed everything! I am now marrying a wonderful man that I met online. Bobbi helped open my eyes to be able to see what would really make me happy...and it's HIM!"

—Jeannette T, 46
"I'm blissfully in love and having the time of my life with this amazing man! I would not be where I am without your guidance & support. Thank you for helping me to manifest my dreams into reality!"

—Rebecca K.
"I hope other ladies in their 40s, 50s and 60s who want a relationship but are scared and lonely find Bobbi and invest in their future. I thank you, Bobbi. You have given me hope, results, and now love."

—Karen C., 65

The 3 Principles of Dating Like a Grownup:

1. Balance your head and heart.

2. Show kindness to yourself and the men you meet.

3. Take responsibility for your actions and outcomes.

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