I’ve heard it more times than I can count: “He’s got everything I’m looking for… he just won’t make a commitment.” The other day I heard that through the sobs of my gorgeous, ambitious, loving friend. She’s been with her man for over a year.
Including this one little word — JUST — is an effort to minimize the enormity of what is actually the truth of your relationship.
After she repeated “just won’t make a commitment” several times, it came to me that it’s not like he just won’t go to a party with her or just can’t buy her some piece of jewelry.
This is big.
This is everything.
Especially at this time in your life.
And, girlfriend, including this one little word — JUST — is an effort to minimize the enormity of what is actually the truth of your relationship.
When a man just can’t or just won’t commit to you, that means you will likely have a relationship without:
If you’re willing to stay with a man who “has everything” but won’t commit to your relationship, it means you’re willing to accept disappointment, fear, and insecurity rather than the love and devotion that you deserve.
It’s not a little ole’ just. If you’re looking for love, it could be everything.
I’ve been with a great guy for almost 3 yrs. He hasn’t committed, because he’s been hurt in the past. His family knows & likes me, but he won’t tell them he’s seeing me. Why?