Dating after 40 and Beyond

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Should You Lie About Your Age in Your Profile? (Video)

Here is an email I recently received: “I just got up my courage and took a look at the dating site Our Time, and here is one of my big concerns: I’m 68 but most… Read more

Single During the Holidays? How to Avoid Feeling like Crap

This time of year is spectacular. Or not. Yes, we get to eat more, work less, shop till we drop, and frolic with friends and family. Also, it’s a time of reflection; and as we… Read more

Over 40 and Single? Happy Sassy Holidays!

Every year I write some version of “Over-40 and Single: How to Survive the Holidays”, like How to Not Feel Like Crap this Year, or How to Avoid the Blues this December… I encourage you… Read more

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Dirty John and the Lessons for Mature Women Dating

Dirty John was a podcast and is now a mini-series on Bravo about a middle-aged woman who meets a man online and enters into a whirlwind courtship. It ends horribly, practically destroying her and her entire family.… Read more

Why I’m Thankful That I’m Old

Today is American Thanksgiving. I love this holiday because it’s an opportunity to spend time with friends and family. To be truthful though, I dislike it because we ought not be celebrating the Pilgrims. Instead,… Read more

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Should You Date a Separated Man?

Should you date a separated man? Let’s put it this way… I did. Then I married him. So, my answer is, Hell Yes! To be clear, I would never encourage you to go out looking… Read more

Should You Commit to a Relationship? Ask These Questions First.

Deborah contacted me and asked a question I get often: should I commit to a relationship with the guy I’ve been dating? She and John have been dating for 4 months and she was wondering… Read more

5 Reasons Women Should Talk About Kavanaugh on a Date

The Kavanaugh hearings are freaking painful. Personally, I’ve tried to go on some kind of news blackout but it’s unavoidable. It’s everywhere in the news. (Real and fake news *choke*.) Everyone is talking about it.… Read more

A Psychotherapists Dating Advice for Women Over 40

When I was 45, sick of being single, and determined to meet my man, I turned to a therapist for help. At the time there were no dating coaches and very few psychotherapists who gave… Read more

How to Connect with a Man, Genuinely and Instantly

You’re getting one of my very best tips today. I’m going to show you how to use “nuggets” as a new way to connect with a man. Nuggets allow you to express yourself with men… Read more