We just hate to say no to a man, don’t we? I mean we’re supposed to be nice and make him like us. Isn’t that what we learned from the time we were little girls?
Well, you’re a woman now, and that “I must please every man” feeling (I hope) is long gone. Also, you’re dealing with grownup men now. They aren’t delicate, ego-driven boys anymore. (At least most!) And they are responsible for their own outcomes and feelings.
So. what do you do when a man asks you out and you aren’t interested? Or what about when you like a man, but he’s doing something that kinda bugs you?
Are you worried about hurting his feelings?
Here are my simple tips for how to say “no” to a guy you don’t want to see again (don’t worry…he can take it) or you DO, but he better stop doing what he’s doing or you’ll have to flee.
Pssst: It’s pretty easy and you might be surprised at what I’m telling you!
Men use their language for negotiation. They must, because they don’t tune into emotions very well. They can’t “tell what you are thinking” – no one can, really, but women seem to be a little better at it than men.
If you as a woman use your language for “negotiation” with a man, he will intrinsically respect you for it. So how do you do that? Just like you said, Bobbie: Tell him what you want – or DON’T want. The point is to open your mouth, speak, and TELL HIM.
Awesome post, Bobbie – as usual! 😉