I had a disappointment today. I blew an opportunity to do well at something that was super important to me. I was struggling to find a way to fix it…to make it right. So I thought: What would I tell another sister to do in this situation? I came up with the answer that worked for me, and I moved on.
I thought you might relate. Maybe you think you blew it with a new guy or you think your time for love has passed. Maybe you are in a relationship that isn’t working out and you’re staying because you think it’s your last opportunity.
My hope is that my process — what I learned and applied in this situation — helps you get past your disappointments when you need to. This is a part of life, and it’s all about how you work through it. Giving up on our important dreams is not an option.
PS: I got pictures this week from two women who received their engagement rings this weekend. Both are around 50 and have never (yet) been married. Both had major disappointments that proceeded their engagements to these terrific men. Like me, they are perfect examples of why we should never give up on our important dreams. Check out my Facebook Page for pics!!!
It’s been 6 mos and I cannot seem to get over my last break up after a 3 year relationship, the only serious one since my divorce 18 years ago and I was married for 18 years. Six weeks after we last spoke, and had plans to get together the next weekend for our birthdays. he sent a short note in the mail saying his head was not in a good place, he wasn’t ready to do anything different. I cried almost daily, wrote unsent letters to him, reviewed lists of ways we didn’t see eye to eye, ran out of friends and family to talk to about my broken heart, mostly I read everything to try to build up my self esteem, I feel so foolish, try to figure out what the heck happened so I don’t make the same mistake again. Sometimes I am ok and know it is for the best, other times I feel just awful. Is there something you can recommend I do to get over him and find closure? What if anything should I say to him that could possibly make me feel better? I don’t know what hurts more, being rejected and not seeing it coming or the juvenile abrupt ending with no closure. I’m 59 and too old for this, running 2 business and too busy, cute and so ready for a great guy… Eileen