You’ve been seeing him for a little while. It’s somewhat regular. You think he could be The One. But you have no idea what he’s thinking. Is he into you? Is he looking for a wife or a lifetime commitment? You REALLY want to ask but you know you shouldn’t…or should you?
And what about if he asks YOU and you’re not ready to answer? What do you do then?
In this video I give you the exact words to use to ask and answer this question in a grownup way that generates honest, productive conversation. Let me know your thoughts! Would this have helped you in the past or is it something you can use with the man you’re currently seeing?
Hi Bobbi,
The video is not here anymore. I have been seeing a guy for almost 2 yrs. He is like the male version of me. We like the same things, we have went on small trips together. We pick at each other all of the time, we laugh and have fun.
However, he is divorced and has 2 grown daughters. He was with his ex wife since high school 25 yrs. She cheated on him multiple times and he caught her. But, he kept staying. Which he says he should have left. Over the past yr and a half. We will date for about 2-3 mths. Then he gets cold and says he needs a break. He doesn’t know what he wants. Then we end up back together. This time we have been back together 2 1/2 mths. Well, he is giving me those signs. But, he will not tell me how he feels. I feel that he loves me. But, he does not talk about his feelings or he doesn’t have any affection. He plays around a lot. I can ask him and explain why. He looks at me with a half smile and tells me to zip it. So, I go with it. The last time he broke up. He said he didn’t feel a serious connection with me. I said do what. How long have you felt this way. He said a month. I said so for a month you knew this and kept going on. He said have I told you I love you. I said no I wasn’t expecting you to say that until your ready. Then he said what he has said every time. I just don’t know what I want. I want to be alone. Of course I feel apart. So, he was fixing my car. I started going out with girlfriends and working on myself. The next thing I know we are going out to eat and hanging out again. Until one night he gets in the car and hands me a key to his house. I was like ok. Then last weekend I put I was in a relationship with him on Facebook. He actually accepted it. But, now his daughters are mad. One of them said So, your in a relationship with Andrea. We should have had a talk about this instead of finding out on Facebook. His other daughter blocked me on Facebook. I’ve never met them in the past almost 2 years. However, since his daughter text that last Friday he has gotten distant. I’ve been staying at his house. I’ve asked him if he wants me to go home. He said I would tell you too if I didn’t want you here. Then I’ve read some of your articles. I’m thinking it is just my fears and intuition.
However, I would like some blunt advice from you please.
Thank you,
AD