I’ve heard it more times than I can count: “He’s got everything I’m looking for; he just won’t make a commitment.” The other day I heard that through the sobs of my gorgeous, ambitious, loving friend. She’s been with her man for over a year.
It came to me after she repeated “just can’t make a commitment” several times: it’s not like he just won’t go on a trip with her or just can’t buy her some piece of jewelry she wants. This is big. This is everything. But saying it as one little word — commitment — minimizes the enormity of what it actually means.
When a man just can’t or just won’t commit to you, that means you’ll have a relationship without:
If you’re willing to stay with a man who “has everything” but this, it means you’re willing to accept disappointment , fear, and insecurity rather than the love and devotion you deserve. It’s not just lack of commitment. It’s everything.