This week my country celebrates its Independence Day and it makes me think…we should celebrate DEpendence Day! How do you feel about that? Are you afraid of depending on a man?
For so many women, dependence is a nasty word, That is especially true for those of us who grew up with the brilliant Gloria Steinem teaching us about our tremendous value as women while thinking that she also said that “a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.” (That was attributed to her, but not actually her words.)
If it wasn’t for Gloria, Bella and the other powerful feminist messengers of the times, we certainly wouldn’t have the opportunities or success that we currently enjoy as women. The other thing we wouldn’t have, though, is the fear and dread over the thought of actually neeeeeding someone…especially a m-a-n! (Oh! The dreaded “N” word.)
I don’t think this was actually the message they set out to deliver, btw. But it got construed by many women as the “I don’t need no stinkin’ man” movement.
Dependence: the state of relying on or needing someone or something for aid, support, or the like.
If you’ve read my eBook 7 Secrets to Finally Finding Love After 40, you know that independence was my badge of honor for a LONG LONG time. And now here I am, depending on a man every day – my dear husband. My life decisions, my livelihood, my overall happiness…yep, I rely on him to support me with it all.
Now that’s some scary shit.
But here’s what else is scary: The thought of being alone as I age. The thought of having to do every single thing in life by myself, as I did for 30 years. The thought of living without the love of a good man. Now THAT is scary.
I know I talk and write a lot about men needing to be needed. That’s not what my Dependence Day celebration is about. D-Day is about what YOU get by accepting. It’s about doing something that allows you to be happy for the rest of your life.
I was thinking of this while I was on the beach so I shot a video. There’s wind noise and I look like crap, but I hope you can get past that to hear my message and the assignment I’m giving you.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and know how you are going to do the assignment. Let me know! Leave your comments here.