Six Reasons to Pursue Love After 40


What if I told you that falling in love when you are 40, 50, 60 or beyond is the BEST time? Better than when you are 18 and hot to trot, better than in your 20s when you didn’t know yourself from a hot rock or your 30s, when your baby and/or career clocks were […]

Why I’m Thankful That I’m Old

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Tomorrow is American Thanksgiving. I love this holiday because it’s an opportunity to spend time with family. To be truthful though, I hate this holiday because we ought not be celebrating. Instead, I think we should be taking the opportunity discuss how we can be better at showing fairness and respect to people who are […]

What 100+ Single Men Think and Feel About Cheating, Love and More

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The last few months I’ve been focused on men – who they are, what dating is like for them what they want , what they mean when they say or do certain things, what they think about your body ,why they disappear. As a matter of fact, last week we recorded a brand new man panel […]

A Single Man’s Thoughts About Your Body (Part 2)


This is a second post from a 50-something anonymous Man-Fan.  (You can read Part 1 here.) After experiencing so many women put themselves down, pull back from intimacy and not accept his compliments, he decided to share the man’s point of view. I hope you love what he says as much as I do. He’s a […]

A Single Man’s Thoughts About Your Body (Part 1)

Men Are People Too

This post is from a 50-something anonymous Man-Fan.  He took his time to share his experience and point of view on what grownup men find attractive in women. I absolutely love what he’s sharing with you. Soak it up! And thank you Mr. Anonymous! As a woman, how do you determine if men find you attractive? […]

The Happy Truth About Men and Commitment (and George Clooney’s Wedding)


When I say these two words — MEN and COMMITMENT — what comes to mind? Men are commitment phoebes? Men are afraid of marriage? Men just want the milk without buying the cow?  Anything like this pop into your brain? A lot of women — especially women who are dating over 40 — believe that men are far more interested […]

The Secret to Learning About His Past Relationships (Without Ruining Yours)

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The general belief is that you learn a lot about someone by knowing their relationship history. Find out the details about his marriages and romances that didn’t work out, and you’ll get a good idea of whether he’s relationship-worthy, right? When we’re dating after 40, the men we’re meeting have decades of this history. They […]

The Fun of Bringing Out the Best in the Men You Date

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This is Nancy, Bobbi’s assistant and Grownup Girls’ Night Out producer. I’m guest-blogging today while Bobbi is taking well-deserved vacation. We had an amazing response to last week’s post “A Man-Fan’s Fiercely Honest Story of Dating after 50.” In the article, “LM” described his experience dating as a man in his 50s; and they were not […]

A Man-Fan’s Fiercely Honest Story of Dating after 50

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OK, Ladies, you want the honest, real, unvarnished truth about what a commitment minded, nice, cute, professional, divorced 54 year old man really wants from you? Are you ready for the truth? Can you handle the truth? Of course you can. You are grownup and you understand how important it is to be empathetic. You […]

The Dating Over 40 Dilemma : Where Are All the Good Guys?


I have some news that will both surprise and delight you. Want to know where all the quality single men are?  They are everywhere! There are about 45 million single men over the age of 35 in the United States. About 8 million are over 65. There are about 7 million single men in Britain […]

NOT Knowing May Be Key to Finding & Keeping Love after 40

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The mind usually says, “I know, I know, I know.” But the “don’t-know mind” is where wisdom lives. ~ Byron Katie At this age many of us walk around with the “I know” mind. “Yeah, yeah, I know that. Been there done that. I’ve had loads of experience, several relationships and maybe even a marriage or […]