What Dating After 40 Is Like for Men (The 6 FemiTypes)

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I love men. People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. I don’t. But I tell them that I help men by helping women. (It really is ALL about you!) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men. […]

What Do I Do When He’s Not Asking Me Out on a Real Date?

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He emails and texts…and emails and texts. That’s it. The phone isn’t ringing and he’s not asking you out. All you want is for him to plan a freaking date so you can actually spend time together! How do you get him to do that? It’s important that you know, not just how to ask […]

How to Get Over Your (Bleeping) Ex and Heal Your Broken Heart

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If you are a woman dating after 40, it’s likely you had at least a few breakups that have left you feeling broken hearted. Maybe you’re going through a breakup now. Maybe you broke up years ago. Maybe you’re still aching over that intense month-long “thing” you had with the hot guy, that ended abruptly when […]

5 Things Grownup Women Should Know About Texting and Dating

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Over the past few years it seems that almost every dating dilemma I hear from my coaching clients and girlfriends has something to do with texting. Texting isn’t just for 20 year olds anymore. These are all women who are dating after 40.   “Sue” connected with a man on Tinder, they had a couple […]

What Looking for Love and Giving Birth Have in Common

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There are so many women I care deeply about —both friends and clients — who are holding themselves back from bringing love into their life. Are you one of them? Are you saying “I want a fabulous man in my life” and “I know I’m a catch” yet not doing much to actually reach your self-described all-important […]

What Turns Men On About Moms, Caretakers and Workaholics


Do you feel stuck in some definition of yourself that you think renders you undatable or uninteresting to men? I received a comment in response to my blog post Just Be Yourself And You Will Easily Attract The Right Man that was all about this. Give it a read, especially if you are dating after 40 and worry that you aren’t the woman […]

How to Spot Men Who Will Waste Your Time or Break Your Heart

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So you’re dating a guy, you really dig him and you think he adores you. Then, boom. He ends it. So, as a woman, even one dating after 40, what do you do? You dwell, you analyze and rehash it into oblivion. What did I do wrong? Why did he do that? How could it have […]

The Slower Road to Love CAN Get You There Quicker (and Better)

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I love it when I’m proven to be right. Especially when it comes to the things I teach, encourage and nag you to do in order to find love. When it comes to dating, here are a few of the things I urge you to do: Unless the guy grosses you out on the first […]

Why He Won’t Commit or Stop Being a Jerk (And What to Do About It)

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I recently posted an article on my Date Like a Grownup Facebook Page called 12 Signs You’re Involved with an Unavailable Man, written by  Dr. Judy Orloff, This is an important discussion about how to identify a romantic partner who may be Emotionally Unavailable. Geez these “EU” men can really mess us up, right? EU men can be quite charming […]

Delicious Life Lessons I Learned from My Father

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As Father’s Day approaches I, of course, think of my Dad who left us in 2012. He was a good man, my Pop. His last several years were difficult, filled with numerous medical issues and a wife who was unable to deal kindly with his physical and emotional challenges. So when Dad left, I was happy for him. […]

Fashion Flash Monday: Let’s Be Chic after 40


Tips and Advice for Women Dating after 40 On a first date, let go of control. You are there to talk and listen to your date, not yourself. Your over-thinking and analyzing will exhaust you. Grab your grownup girl to remind her that you can’t read minds and there are two people involved here. Stop […]