How Dating Like a Man Will Make You Happier

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Emotional exhaustion. Hopelessness. Hating men and/or yourself. That’s what dating the wrong way can do to women. You get to feeling like it’s just not worth all the nonsense, hurt and disappointment. Why bother? You have a pretty good life, so why are you bothering? I’ll tell you why: Because you have to date if you want love in your […]

Delicious Life Lessons I Learned from My Father

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As Father’s Day approaches I, of course, think of my Dad who left this Earth in 2012. He was a good man, my Pop. His last several years were difficult, filled with numerous medical issues and a wife who was unable to deal kindly with his physical and emotional challenges. So when he left, I was […]

What Grownup Men Really Want From You On a Date


This might shock you:  The intellectual connection and witty repartee that so many of us over 40, looking for love, single women say we want and MUST HAVE is not anywhere near the top of the list for most men when they date. This is why so many women aren’t finding partners: because they are […]

How To Get Your Man to Open Up About His Feelings (Advice from a Dude)


Today I’m sharing a post written by a gentleman named Ben Neal, who wrote this at my request just for my Date Like a Grownup community. I asked him to write about how to get our men to open up (yes! I mean OUR) because, whether you’re dating or in a relationship, getting men to talk about their feelings […]

Do Men Really Want Commitment? Hell Yes They Do!

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The topic of my Grownup Girls’ Night Out webcast last night was “The Happy Truth About Men and Commitment.” Not only did I help some of you shed your belief that men don’t want commitment (they DO!), I also helped some of you realize that you’re with a man who IS committed. (The webcast is below if you want to scroll […]

Hating First Dates ? Do This and You Won’t

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My hubby and I skipped town last weekend for a 3-day Las Vegas getaway. It was spur of the moment, with a place to stay but no dinner reservations or show tickets. We threw some summer clothes in a bag, gassed up the car and hit the road. Spontaneous, open and with an attitude that […]

How Your Dating Can Help Your Daughters

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Happy Mother’s Day! In my mind, being a great Mother is the most difficult and most important job on Earth. Admittedly, I don’t know from personal experience, which is probably why I have such admiration for women who have taken this journey. What I DO know, though, is how to help women and girls maintain […]

Imperfection Does Not Equal Dating Rejection

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Are you perfect? Do you know anyone who is? Look at the people you know who are in midlife or older: do you know anyone who doesn’t have some rough times behind her or is not currently facing some life challenge? It’s doubtful—because you are in real life and not the movies! All grownups have […]

The #1 Would-Be Relationship Killer for Daters over 40


If you are over 40, you have baggage. That nasty divorce, the bankruptcy, your high maintenance child, an STD or some other health problem…these are just some of the common products of a rich and varied, well-lived life. As The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40, one of the critical dating skills I […]

Are You Attracting Cads and Pingers? (FemiType #6: The Sexpot)

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Let me start today by telling you how magnificent you are. The fact that you are a woman over 40 and reading this tells me that you are all the more spectacular. Really, it does! One of the reasons finding love over 40 can be the most gratifying time of all is that you know […]