6 Ways to Dump Your Dude-ness (and Have More Fun With Men and in Life)

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You know how I’m always encouraging (ok nagging) you to embrace your femininity when you are with men? The female, womanly part of us (not just our vaginas, though they are certainly important) is THE thing that attracts grownup, fabulous men like bees to freaking honey. Yet it’s the one thing we often hold back. […]

Why You’re So Lucky to Be Dating after 40 (and Why Dating in Your 20s Sucked)


As your coach it’s my job to guide you through navigating dating at this time of your life. Dating in your 40s, 50s and beyond is quite different than dating when younger. Duh, right? Well, today I want to talk about something I see as one of the main reasons it’s so great to be […]

What if You Knew This Would Be Your Last Valentine’s Day as a Single Woman?


What if you KNEW this was going to be your last Valentine’s Day as a single woman over 40? The last one spent with “me, myself and I” or hanging with your kids or a pack of single girlfriends? How would that change how you react, what you do and how you feel about this […]

How to Talk to a Man About Something That’s Bugging You (and Save Your Relationship!)


My client Rebecca had been dating Jim for six months. They had been exclusive almost since the day they met, and their relationship was moving along quite nicely. She really dug him, and they talked about a future together. But there was one thing that constantly bothered her – and it was a BIG thing. […]

Do’s and Don’ts About Online Profile Photos for Women Dating after 40

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Posting photos on your online dating profile can feel agonizing, especially for women and most especially for women who are dating later in life. Writing a profile and filling out questionnaires can be a challenge, but the posting pictures part is the hardest part for many. It’s true that you’re putting yourself out there and […]

Why Older Men Seem So Boring and What You’re Missing If You Won’t Date Them

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For the past few weeks I’ve been running my Date Like a Grownup Challenge: Create a Profile that Makes You Shine Online. It has been an amazing experience. Over 1000 women are registered and learning step-by-step how to create an online profile that helps you stand out and expresses who you are in a grownup, attractive way. […]

Single? Avoid the Holiday Blues by Celebrating Yourself

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This time of year is spectacular. We get to eat more, work less, shop till we drop, and frolic with friends and family. It’s a time of reflection; and as we count our blessings, we may also think about what’s missing in our otherwise fulfilled lives. When I was single, the holidays put me in […]

Six Reasons to Pursue Love After 40


What if I told you that falling in love when you are 40, 50, 60 or beyond is the BEST time? Better than when you are 18 and hot to trot, better than in your 20s when you didn’t know yourself from a hot rock or your 30s, when your baby and/or career clocks were […]

Why I’m Thankful That I’m Old

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Tomorrow is American Thanksgiving. I love this holiday because it’s an opportunity to spend time with family. To be truthful though, I hate this holiday because we ought not be celebrating. Instead, I think we should be taking the opportunity discuss how we can be better at showing fairness and respect to people who are […]

What 100+ Single Men Think and Feel About Cheating, Love and More

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As your dating and relationship coach it’s so important that I teach you as much as I can about men: who they are, what dating is like for them what they want , what they mean when they say or do certain things, what they think about your body ,why they disappear. As a matter of […]

A Single Man’s Thoughts About Your Body (Part 2)


This is a second post from a 50-something anonymous Man-Fan.  (You can read Part 1 here.) After experiencing so many women put themselves down, pull back from intimacy and not accept his compliments, he decided to share the man’s point of view. I hope you love what he says as much as I do. He’s a […]