You’re dating someone and you adore him. He says he’s right there with you. And acts like it. Damn, it FEELS GOOD. It’s also SCARY. How do you know when it’s okay to feel SAFE and HOPEFUL with a new guy…to know he is The One??

It’s your first or second date and you’re really digging a guy. You’re feeling those butterflies. Should you pay attention to the CHEMISTRY?

If you’re looking for a loving, committed, lifetime partner but keep picking players, narcissists, or non-committals…the clear answer is NO!  Chemistry is your enemy!

Do you want to know the key to writing an online dating profile to catch the eye of the type of good, grownup men you want to meet? Be. Real. That’s it. When you express… Read more

“In Is There Still Sex in The City? Bushnell looks at love and life from all angles—marriage and children, divorce and bereavement, as well as the very real pressures on women to maintain their youth… Read more

Have you ever noticed how, when things go well for us, we women say how “lucky” or “blessed” we are? And men, not so much. Men seem to have an innate sense of entitlement when… Read more

By the time I was 47 and never married or even in a long-term relationship I was the epitome of tired of being single. Now, even though I’ve been happily married since 2006, I still… Read more

Every year I write some version of “Over-40 and Single: How to Survive the Holidays”, like How to Avoid Feeling Like Crap this Year, or Tis the Season for Breakups and Bad Dates. I encourage… Read more

If you are a woman dating after 40, it’s likely you had at least a few breakups that have left you feeling brokenhearted. So…how DO you get over your ex? Maybe you’re going through a… Read more

Deborah contacted me and asked a question I get often: should I commit to a relationship with the guy I’ve been dating? She and John have been dating for 4 months and she was wondering… Read more