55 Ways to Have Fun (So You Attract the Right Men)

If part of your plan for 2012 is to add a fabulous man into your life, it’s important that you create your best life possible. When you do that, you attract the finest of men. I’m talking about the Good Grownup Guys over 40 who are smart, well-balanced and looking for a woman to add to their already great lives. (Just like you, right?)

Celebrating yourself and enjoying your life is key to being successful in your search for love. Here are oodles of ideas to help you create fun, stay motivated and keep your eyes on the prize. Find some you like and then make specific plans, design rituals and share it all with friends and loved ones.

Enjoy your holiday season.

With a ton of love, support and admiration,

Things to do.

1.  Read a magazine or book — anything that interests you; even just for 10 minutes.
2.  Get a manicure or pedicure.
3.  Get your hair done; maybe change the color.
4.  Call a friend and plan to go out for dinner.

5.  Buy a feminine, flirty dress (avoid black…men love color.)
6.  Sign up for an activity group on meetup.com (kayaking, hiking, book clubs, women having fun, swing dancing, yoga…they have everything.)
7.  Garden.
8.  Go to the movies.
9.  Plan a picnic.
10. Have a potluck dinner. Assign a food category to each of your friends and set a date.
11. Start a collection (charm bracelet, travel photo book, movies, music).
12. Create a notebook with a list of positive things about yourself. E.g., I am a fantastic woman, my friends love my sense of humor, I am understanding, I am intelligent…
13. Create a movie weekend by yourself or with friends. Be sure to eat some popcorn while you watch!
14. Sign up for a cooking or pottery workshop in your local community.
15. Organize a bake sale or car wash in your neighborhood and donate the proceeds to a school or community project.
16. Volunteer for a church event, school event, blood-drive, hospital, animal shelter, etc.
17. Play card games, dominoes, or do a puzzle.
18. Ride your bike. Try to find new trails.
19. Write short stories or poems.
20. Go on a photography hunt and find interesting themes to shoot.
21. Write a list of what you love about yourself and your life.
22. Go to a concert.
23. Exercise. Try new exercise routines like yoga or Pilates.
24. Go star-gazing.
25. Go to a museum.
26. Have dinner outside while watching the sunset. You can make dinner or pick up some fast food.
27. Learn to play a musical instrument.
28. Wear lipstick and shave your legs. (yes, both!)
29. Do something nice for a man you just met.  Tell him you  like his shoes or that he looks like an old boyfriend that you adored.  Or, simply listen to him intently or give a sincere laugh at something he says.  He will show his delight and stay puffed up for a week.  And you’ll feel so good.
30. Go buy a new bra that shows off your fabulous girls.  While you’re at it, feel free to peruse the lingerie section and fantasize a little.  Again. . .smile.
31. Ask another stylish woman for a referral to her salon and make an appointment for a pedicure or new hairstyle.
32. Ask your friends and family what they like about you.
33. Learn how to feng shui your house to attract love and success.

Reward yourself when you hit a milestone, reach a goal (none is too small!) or notice a new positive habit.

34. Create a reward routine. Jump up and down, take a walk, allow yourself chocolate…something that represents self congratulations.
35. Drink a glass of wine.
36. Treat yourself to a manicure or pedicure.
37. Eat chocolate.
38. Treat yourself to dinner.
39. Finish the day with a long, soak in the tub. (Be sure to light a candle).
40. Enjoy a leisurely Sunday morning — spend the morning in your pajamas reading the newspaper, a book or poring over a few magazines.
41. Schedule a massage.
42. Devote the entire day to a shopping spree for a new dress.
43. Buy a bottle of champagne.
44. Hire a maid for the day to cook and clean while you   lounge around.
45. Sleep in.
46. Take a day off from any goal activities.
47. Take a nap.
48. Plan a short getaway. (And then take it!)
49. Walk along the beach.
50. Blend a smoothie.
51. Write in your gratitude journal.
52. Look in the mirror and tell yourself “You did it…you’re fabulous!”
53. Call a friend and tell her what you’ve done.
54. Invest in a plan, program or coach to help you accomplish the next step.
55. Put up a big gold star on your refrigerator, mirror or any other place you’ll see it often.