STOP Waiting for Chemistry, Will Ya?
November 15th, 2011 |
Dating over 40,Dating to Find Love,Grow and Change to Find Love,How to Talk to Men |
bobbi |
11 comments
Are you a woman over 40 who is dating and looking for love? If you’re waiting to feel that amazing chemistry to tell you that he’s The One…think again. Chemistry is for 18 year olds.
Chemistry makes you feel good, and it makes for a good date. But it takes a whole lot more to know if he could be a loving, lifetime partner. If you want to find the lasting love of a good man, give up the search for butterflies and start searching for the man who has your must-have’s and makes you feel like the smart, lovely woman that you are.
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Michelle
November 16, 2011
Hi Bobby, I loved this! You said you felt peaceful, and you really liked yourself when you met your husband. So simple and clear, what a gem of wisdom! Thank you
Bobbi Palmer
November 16, 2011
It really is pretty simple Michelle. We tend to make it awfully complicated though. Thanks so much for your comment!
Karen Cohen
November 16, 2011
Your advice is right on. After working with you I got it. I am now in a wonderful relationship with a Fabulous man that makes me feel safe, loved and adored. These feelings allow me to have the grownup chemistry for a long time lasting relationship. Thank you
Bobbi Palmer
November 16, 2011
You worked darn hard to get to where you are in this Relationship, Karen. Funny how, when a man makes you feel feel safe, loved and adored, that can make him look pretty damn fabulous to you, right?! Enjoy! You deserve it. Love you!
Candice
November 16, 2011
I agree that Chemistry can get you in trouble…BUT if there’s NO CHEMISTRY at all, for me, I cannot continue in the relationship. I am new to online dating, and I meet the men I feel have possibilities, but so many times there is ZERO chemistry…I believe you gotta feel SOMETHING to at least keep the conversation going.
Bobbi Palmer
November 16, 2011
Hi Candice. I’m not saying you should stick with a man who grosses you out. What I AM saying is that, if he doesn’t make you all excited on date #1, but he has other good qualities…give him a chance. When you walk in and take a look at a guy and decide – just by looking — that he’s “not for you” then you approach the entire date with that assumption. That makes potentially good dates go bad because you give up before you start. Just keep an open mind. I know tons of women who fell in love with men with whom they didn’t feel chemistry right off.
Michelle
November 16, 2011
Hi again Bobby, Do you think it’s always a bad sign when you DO feel chemistry right away? I’ve heard you should RUN! I’m guessing it’s how you feel about yourself in his presence that is the biggest sign of a good thing,thoughts?
Susan Cohen
November 18, 2011
This video is amazing and so important for us, as women, to hear and remember. Thank you. You stated, the right man will make us feel like the smart and lovely women that we are. In addition, I remember the 3 words of feeling at peace, safe, and loved by our man. This is confirming for all of us that we are on the right track…….and now have the knowledge to experience being on the right track. I feel honored to have you as a friend, and would have never met if I hadn’t come out to California.
Bobbi Palmer
November 18, 2011
Thank you so much, Susan. I, too, am glad to have met you and it makes me so happy that what you are learning is helping you get closer to love. Go for it girlfriend!
Heather Kim
November 18, 2011
Hi Bobbi, This video makes me think of my ex-boyfriend whom I left 5 months ago. I left him for the value difference as you already know, but he DID make me feel safe and loved. I never had to worry about feeling stupid, which is how I often feel around highly educated people. I used to tell people that he made me feel safe to be vulnerable. Did I tell you that he bought me flowers every single week (without a failure) for entire 4 1/2 years we’ve been together?
Bobbi Palmer
November 20, 2011
Hi Heather. He sounds like he was very special and cared a lot about you. We can learn a lot from every relationship. It’s a great exercise to consider what this one taught you.