Comments on: For Geez Sake, Don’t Dump Him: It’s Just Salad Dressing

By: Date Like a Grown-Up » Have You Passed Up Your Hot Man?

Date Like a Grown-Up » Have You Passed Up Your Hot Man? — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 14:57:47 +0000

[...] Check out my previous post about being quick to judge. It’ll help you. I know [...]

By: Francine

Francine — Wed, 06 May 2009 02:58:18 +0000

Hi, I think you’re right on. I’m really enjoying your blog.

By: Bobbi Palmer

Bobbi Palmer — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 01:08:47 +0000

Naja,
Thanks so much for your openness in sharing your story. We can all be fault finders, but you’ve got exactly what counts here: being consciously aware of what you are and are not willing to accept in a man and in a relationship. I suggest doing some work on this. Here’s a very quick review of an exercise that my clients do:
Take 10-15 minutes and visualize yourself with your ideal mate. How do you feel about yourself when you are with him? What do you love to give him and do for him? What does he believe, look like, act like, and care about? What do you share and do together?
Write all of your thoughts down. Next, decide which are must haves (non-negotiable) versus nice to haves (negotiable). Be honest with yourself, but be realistic. Is his height or profession truly a must-have? If he is insecure or non-communicative, are you truly willing to be flexible with that?
There’s more to the exercise, but this can get you started. Every grown-up woman should do this before she starts dating to look for her special man. The clarity will create a feeling of confidence and control you may not yet have. Good luck in love!

By: Naja Hayward

Naja Hayward — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 03:00:52 +0000

Ohhh nooo! that’s ME!

my friends call me FF… Fault Finder…

I’ve grown over the last several years, but still single none-the-less and waiting to get past the spot of salad dressing syndrome… but maybe it’s more…

it’s more like the guys I meet, often with many great qualities, have slightly larger issues that I seem to have trouble overcoming…

It’s trying to figure out which man’s imperfections I’m willing and interested to accept.

A good article (But I’m finding they ALL are!)

By: elizabeth

elizabeth — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 03:09:43 +0000

This was entertaining, and helpful even for a married woman! It’s easy to get wrapped up in gobs of salad dressing or annoying habits, and sometimes challenging to look beyond all of that to the person in front of you, or next to you in bed.

By the way, I, too, was rooting for Robert Downey Jr. Remember when he sang with Sting? Hel-lo.